"Yeah, I do!"
Four of us got together to go to a movie this afternoon. This is a rare event, it's hard to find a time when all schedules allow for us all to go on an outing. We'd decided to go see 'The Last Mimsey' forgetting that this was Saturday and the theatre would be full of children. That is until we walked in.
Now, being in a wheelchair, I have only two seating options. Left or ... Right. Upon entering we saw the seat next to the disabled spot taken by a family. None disabled. None in a wheelchair. I said, not to them but to my friend, "Maybe the other wheelchair seat has space." Then I looked up to see that it was full, too, again with a family without a disabled member. This meant that I would have to sit by myself beside a group of strangers. Fun. Wow.
The people closest to me refused to even look in our direction. But the other family, noticing, said, "Not to worry, we've got lots of other places to sit." They got up and thusly made room for all of us. As I was wheeling back into the spot I noticed that the kid sitting behind me would have a bit of trouble seeing over me because I sit tall in my chair. The kid said to his mom, "Does he have to sit THERE?"
"Yeah, I do," was all I said.
Sensing an oncoming scene my friends started thinking about options. I said, plainly, "I have only two choices, they have over a hunderd. I'm sitting here. What else am I supposed to do?"
The mom behind was clearly upset and had her son move to the seat on the other side of her. Muttering and grumbling about my blocking his view.
I mean, excuse me.
What the hell happened to consideration for others? Isn't that something a parent is SUPPOSED to teach to a child? Isn't that part of the job? Isn't selfishness to be discouraged?
Is it me ... or is anyone else mourning the loss of just plain decency?
I actually miss manners.
I know that I can be crusty, but only when I need to be. I don't expect the world to make every accomodation for me ... without me having to make the occasional accomodation for the world.
There were only two spots for people with disabilities.
Sorry I had to use one.
Luckily the movie was wonderful, charming even. And as the story unfolded I thought more about the family that got up and gladly moved and less about Momzilla and monster boy behind me. There still is kindness in the world.
But even so the would would be better with the occasional "please", the passing "thank you" and a smidgen of flexibility.